Most of my friends live nowhere near me. This situation is amplified a thousand times when Neil is away for work.

He’s not in the army. He doesn’t work on a boat. He’s a software engineer. And working from home requires some city office time. Apparently.
I don’t begrudge that cheeky beer with his mates or his attendance at the pub quiz. Well, maybe a little. I’m really good at pub quizzes.
My point is. I miss him.
The day he leaves, I’m a little excited because I get the remote. But really, that gets old fast. I just miss him.
Even though we are very married and he’s a giant dork, he’s my dork.
For instance, I’m taking the Tribe Writers course. (Another random fact about me: I hoard writing courses.)
One of the course modules includes emailing your friends and asking them how they would describe you and your writing voice.
I actually emailed Neil. Because he’s my friend and he’s not actually in the house with me right now.
Describe me in three words, I wrote.
I don’t know. You’re just you.
That’s six words.
Pedantic. Seven.
My husband, the comedian.
I emailed another friend. Our last blogged conversation was this post over here.
Describe me in three words, I said.
Too far away, she said.
You’re winning, I wrote back.
Another one said: Warm, trustworthy, adventurous.
Not ‘Massive Bitch Face?’
No, she said.
That same friend also said my writing was like a hug. Like a bottomless cup of coffee.
Cool, um, beans.
You could also go with ‘Hair defies control,’ she wrote.
That, too.
So, think of my writing as a conversation over coffee. Which is the kind of vibe I’m going for, anyway. There a category for that. Aptly named Coffee Talk.
And it’s especially true on weeks like this. When one best friend is not quite four years old, and the others are not here.
How’s your week treating you?

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44 Comments
I love that analogy! Plus you always want to have coffee with friends right?
I’m glad you’re back, Tiffany. The world needs your words. <3
Thank you. Trying to get a couple of posts written so I won’t feel pressured.
Love you so much ❤
Love you more!
These three words popped into my mind: honest, succinct, funny. Funny because I like how you say Hi. Succinct because you do get your point across without any excess baggage-y words. Honest because you just seem honest. Hi.
Honestly, Lori. Your words are a day-brighter. Hi. *short-wave*
I agree your writing is like coffee! My week so far can be decibed as meh. I have a docter’s appoinment tomorrow what should be uneventful (just refilling perscription) but since it is also my service dog puppy’s first ‘field trip’ I’m mentally ppreparing for anything.I sometimeswish we lived closer because I would love to be more than just friendly blog acquaintences. I reccomended your blog to another writer with CP who recently found mine. Also what happened to the book giveaway? Did I miss it?
Good luck tomorrow, I’m sure the puppy will do his job. Let me know how it goes. Thanks for recommending me and Gin & Lemonade. Didn’t miss anything on the giveaway. My randomiser went to the pub! Putting the names in a hat and announcing Friday. Also working on something else to make up for my lateness. xox
Such lovely words from your friends! I am with you on the husband being away and friends too far away X
Thank you, Zoe! And I was so happy to have discovered your blog through the Bash Awards. All the best to you and continued success! xox
Ah thank you! Same goes for you!! I’m glad I discovered yours! Be lovely to keep in touch 🙂 xx
I LOVE that your hair defies control. Why should we even want to control our hair??
Great anemology!
The study of winds? I don’t think you want a post about that…
Sorry phone autocorrect! Analogy!!
Knew that, just funnin’.
I don’t know your personally but it seems you are a blessing in many lives. Enjoyed your post!
I’ll have mint tea while you have the coffee ?. “Too far away” made me misty eyed.
I adore this post. It’s so fun and conversational. I need to read this again with a cup of coffee. 🙂
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What a lovely blog post! It did feel like having a conversation over coffee with friends…. I’m not sure if I’m brave enough to ask my mates to describe me in 3 words …. ! LOL ?
I think you’d be surprised!
Believe it or not, I just asked a friend to describe her kids in three words and I did the same with mine! Great post! 🙂
What did you come up with? Isla is indescribable…
You in three words: Really good writer
I love you, Alice. Those are your words, too.
Back at ya, dear Lorna!
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Aw Lorna! Bless you! I crave that odd day of solitude and get it far too rarely!
My three words..
Deserves an award! ?
Are those three words for me or you, though? 😉
Maybe it’s time to pass the crown on! ?
I can dig that!
😀
Love that post. I thought I would share and move on but I had to read cos that’s what your writing is. Warm and beautiful. 🙂
Thank you, Parul!
You didn’t ask, but I have to share: sarcastic, sweet, delight.
Of course, there are many more words. But I love your friends description of a bottomless cup of coffee, and a hug. That sounds right to me.
Thank you for the sarcasm. I’m glad it’s detectable. No, really.
My mother use to write long letters and you would think you were in the room having a cup of tea and a good jaw fest. She would even put in breaks like “Okay I back, I just had to go to the bathroom.” It made the letters so intimate. Real, authentic and comfortable. Those would be my 3 words for you 🙂
Diana, I hope you still have those letters. What an actual treasure. Thank you for your words, and your words!
I do so enjoy my (many) cups of coffee, and I also really enjoy your writing.
Hi Kimiye, glad you commented because I found your blog and then connected all the FB love. Hi! I tried to leave a comment on ‘The Dreaded Question’ but the system said it was spam.
Oh no! I’m not sure what to do about that… I’m still new at all this.
Love the ‘hair defies control’ one. I can so relate!