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Adventures In Blogger’s Block

4th December 2017

And so, I set up this nifty new domain, my blogging composition book has titles written in it, I’m all excited to add words to those titles.  And…nothing.  Well, some stuff.  Noise in the kitchen.  Where I write.

I would dearly love to have a door I could shut for 2 or 3 hours, and then I’d write, open the door and do the other things.  But since my writing has to happen around my life, on the kitchen table, not a lot of writing happens.

I used to be a writer. I had day jobs and then I’d come home and write.  I wrote corporate words at work, too.  And threeish years ago,  I even tried out the coveted title of Freelance Writer, before I had to trade my very first client for morning sickness that lasted all day.  Best trade ever.

Life ensued.  Some blogging.  Still not a lot of writing.

Somewhere along the way I became a blogger.

And I wanted to do what I actually set out to do 7 years ago, share my life as a disabled person where my CP is just one of the things that make my life interesting.  There’s also the American-living-in-Scotland part, the maybe-High-Functioning-Anxiety part.  And the wife and mother part.

But who gives a shit about me?  Who says my life is interesting?

I’ve always wanted to use this blog to connect with people, and maybe help them.

But y’know, which people?

Disabled people who like to travel, but need to find accessible places to sleep and do other touristy things?  That was kinda my day-job (No, I was not a travel agent.)

Expats who miss where ever the hell they’re from today?  I’ve been in Scotland 25 yearsish.  I grew half-way up in NY and half here.  Mine is not the typical expat experience, and so can’t help people with typical expat issues.

Do I write a book blog and recommend books all day?  I don’t have as much time to read as you may think.

Am I a Mom blogger?  No, the blog came before the kid.

Do I write writing tips?  Maybe.

My point is, when I do have time to post, what do I write about today?

How the fam and I attempted to visit yet another inaccessible bookshop, and I didn’t buy any books, but that’s OK because I have a shitload of unread books in my house?

How Neil is at his Edinburgh office this week, and I’m a big mope?

How I was gonna write the 15th word on my NaNo-novel, but Mindhunter happened?

How when Isla asks me to cuddle with her for two hours I do it, because when does that happen any more?

How I really need teleportation to be a thing?

And how does that help you, unless seeing inside my jumbled mind makes you feel less alone?

Let’s start a club.

Also, is Sarcasm Influencer a thing?







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  • Reply Nicole 4th December 2017 at 2:04 pm

    I read your blog not because I have any vested interest in disability, travel, or expats (though someday I would like to maybe be an expat who travels), but because you are a mom with a kid around the age of my kids who tries to work while watching that kid, and who isn’t smugly telling me how I can live your glamorous, perfect life (without frizzing your hair!) if I would only follow these 125 simple steps that involve stuff like spa days and chia seeds and green beverages. It also helps that you love things I love (reading, writing, kids, sarcasm) and seem to have no more control over your hair than I have over mine.

    I’m not interested in mommy blogs, or lifestyle blogs, or tips blogs. I want to know that someone out there struggles with the same stuff I do, because I have thus far failed to make any face-to-face mom friends. And none of my prospects are as close to being in the same boat as you.

    So you just keep doing you, and I will keep reading. And commiserating. And squealing over cute Isla stuff, because Isla.

    • Reply Lorna 4th December 2017 at 4:56 pm

      You, my friend, are one of the reasons I need a teleporter.

    • Reply Debbie Harris 4th December 2017 at 8:54 pm

      That is a great comment and sums it all up beautifully. How thoughtful and caring you are! Lorna is lucky to have such a great blogging community around her.

    • Reply Liesbet 4th December 2017 at 10:35 pm

      What a wonderful comment!!

  • Reply achildof 4th December 2017 at 3:55 pm

    I like your writing style. Your real way of communicating, you being you makes me smile and I love to smile. It is nice to hear of another person having different yet similar thoughts moments. Thank you for blogging. 🙂

  • Reply SickChristine 4th December 2017 at 4:08 pm

    Love, love, love the new blog. It looks great.

    • Reply Lorna 4th December 2017 at 4:16 pm

      Not too busy? Like, do you know where to put your eyes?

      • Reply SickChristine 4th December 2017 at 4:19 pm

        No, it’s pretty clean and streamlined. I love it.

  • Reply Suzanne [globalhousesitterX2] 4th December 2017 at 4:20 pm

    Lorna, I am sure your beginnings and ongoing fun of becoming a blogger can resonate with many, you have certainly carved yourself a unique position in the world of blogging. Look forward to reading more!

  • Reply Carol 4th December 2017 at 5:25 pm

    I read your blog, and the other blogs I read, because it’s a sharing thing – it’s feeling like you are getting to know the blogger a little, like there’s a kind of kinship. Our lives need not be the same, or even near the same, it’s always interesting to share thoughts and feelings, whatever direction they go. When I write, it’s not because I have anything important to say, but there are words that are raising a ruckus in my brain because they want, no need, to be let out. So write what you feel, what makes you happy to write, the rest of us will go with it.

  • Reply Debbie Harris 4th December 2017 at 8:56 pm

    I enjoy reading your blog because it’s you. Keep going and do what you love. 😊

  • Reply Sundry 4th December 2017 at 9:52 pm

    I read because I enjoy your perspective and your wit. I think that’s the connecting tissue of your writing.

    I want to say that choosing a single focus is over rated, but my own lack of focus has ended up in a blog I once loved to write running aground.

    It’s all good work, a good practice to maintain, and I’ll be here reading your words!

    • Reply Lorna 4th December 2017 at 9:54 pm

      I loved your blog Sally. How is Sundry Too?

  • Reply Liesbet 4th December 2017 at 10:33 pm

    While I can totally relate to the “who cares about me and my life” statement, I have the opposite problem: hundreds of topics I wish to write about (and that might, maybe, be interesting as well), but no time at all. Writing about whatever strikes your fancy seems to have worked for you, so just keep dong that! 🙂

  • Reply bluerosegirl08 4th December 2017 at 10:33 pm

    I also have cerebral palsy and read your blog for many reasons. My blog is also a catchall for my thoughts and my writing is made more sporadic then I would like. I have five different post drafts in the draft folder and none of them are even close to finished. I don’t think the topics are related to each other either.

  • Reply Reflections of an Untidy Mind 4th December 2017 at 10:36 pm

    🙂 🙂 🙂 PS. Your new blog has now appeared in my reader. Yay.

    • Reply Lorna 4th December 2017 at 10:41 pm

      I noticed. I feel legit again, ha! 🙂

  • Reply Bookstooge 4th December 2017 at 11:16 pm

    Hurray! This showed up in my feed!!! I am very glad of that fact.

    Ahhh, yes, the whole padawan part of the journey. Finding yourself and all that schizzle. As Master Yoda might have said, “Help you I cannot. Only help you you can.”

    But lightsabers always help. Especially if you’re pissed off about something 🙂

  • Reply Bookstooge 6th December 2017 at 3:41 pm

    I did not see a comment box in your latest post. Just so you know…

    • Reply Lorna 6th December 2017 at 3:53 pm

      …and that was my fault. Too many options with this newness! Should be there now. 🙂

  • Reply gemmaorton 24th December 2017 at 9:29 pm

    I read your blog because it’s yours, and you are brutally, hilariously honest!

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