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1st February 2018

And so, I’m sitting here (as I do) wondering where to start.

Perhaps with a confession.  Before I started this post, I checked my stats.  I know, I said elsewhere, don’t become a Stats fiend.  New year, new me?  No, not quite.

But I’m looking at the chart, thinking:

Who are these people?

Where do they come from?

How can I help them?

Bounce rate is like, something fun, right?  No?

I started blogging when blogs were indeed personal journals.  I had a LiveJournal, for gahdsake.

Hi.

Now, blogging seems to be all about solving people’s problems.

Well.

I have my own problems.

When I started out on Gin & Lemonade, I thought it would be about wheelchair-accessible travel with a little about how I don’t sleep with my colleagues and I’m not a number or a tourist.

I didn’t think about who was reading or if my words helped them (although I hoped they helped). I kinda knew my story so I didn’t have to explain it.

The difference between then and now, and there is one, is I used to write instead of writing about not writing.

Which brings me to today, and why I want to write/blog/post every day in February.

Because I need it.  Because it helps me.

Because I can no longer complain about having no space to write without actually writing.  I need to create the space.  And make the time.

Because I haven’t been particularly happy with the words I’ve blogged recently.  Because it’s not writing.

So, lets start again.

My name is Lorna.   I have CP and use a wheelchair.  My wheels are better than your wheels.   I’m an American living in Scotland.  How long I’ve lived here has been disputed (by my mother.  Hi, Ma), but by my Math(s) it’s 25 years next month, which makes me old 36.

My 12 year-old self took off from New York and was greeted at the airport in Glasgow by my Dad and a banner and quite literally a bunch of people who I thought were my family.

In um, related news, I landed on St Patrick’s Day, which would prove to be my husband’s birthday, but I didn’t know that then.

So, Scotland has given me a family, just not the one I thought.

I spent a few years in different places collecting memories, but not many University degrees (I have half of 2, which makes a hangover nothing.)

I did some solo-travel, sometimes actually solo.  On one of my trips, I began to think of starting this blog.

It’s called Gin & Lemonade because that was my favorite Grandma’s favorite drink.  I also had a favorite Nana.  Everything I write in this blog and in my life is a letter to them.

Except maybe all those times I got paid to write corporate words.

Fast forward a few years/trips/jobs.

I met Neil, who is my puzzle-piece and my favorite pain in the ass.  I looked for him everywhere, but he went to the one University I didn’t.  We found each other online.

Neil, who was once Sarge, and I have made a human called Isla (Eye-la, if you need it) who was once called Zerbert.

The three of us lived in Edinburgh, but now we’ve moved to Skye.  I miss Edinburgh.  I sometimes, maybe strangely, miss New York.  I’m from everywhere and nowhere.

And so, is this a travel blog?  I don’t know.  I used to travel, thought that I’d write accessible travel guides for every country in the world.  These days, I can’t find an accessible bookshop.

Is this a disability blog?  I don’t know.  But I have one of those.

Is this a family blog?  I don’t know, but I have one of those, too.

Is this an expat blog?  I don’t know, but my accent is weird.

At the moment I blog because my best friend is a three year-old.  A pretty cool three year-old who I made, but still, a three year-old.

I blog for the conversations I have, and for the ones that I can’t have.

And I write because I have to.

 

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46 Comments

  • Reply Anonymous 1st February 2018 at 5:13 pm

    4.5

  • Reply Raquel 1st February 2018 at 5:15 pm

    Love this Lorna, and agree blogging has changed so much since I started in 2012, but I still think it can be anything you create it to be. Cheers from California!

    • Reply Lorna 1st February 2018 at 6:33 pm

      Hi Raquel, where is your blog? It isn’t connected to your profile, and I’d like to read it, ha!

  • Reply The Avid Reader 1st February 2018 at 5:23 pm

    Great post! Like you, I write because I enjoy writing. Originally I only wrote novels *well, one novel that I still haven’t finished even after several years!), but I’ve recently got really into blogging. The reason are not for followers or statistics, but because I love to talk books and films and hopefully, other people might want to talk back, but if they don’t I still love posting.

    • Reply Lorna 1st February 2018 at 6:37 pm

      Only one novel? I’m glad your internet is back on, too.

      • Reply The Avid Reader 1st February 2018 at 7:32 pm

        What I mean is, I only wrote, in order to finish my novel….and even then it’s still not finished!

  • Reply johnrieber 1st February 2018 at 5:37 pm

    Great post. I have been doing this for six years now, with more than 1,200 posts – some get a lot of traction, some seem to have a more “specialized” appeal – but that’s OK – I THINK – I look forward to seeing your daily posts!

  • Reply loristory 1st February 2018 at 5:40 pm

    Keep writing, Lorna. I will make time to read your February blogs, hopefully every day. I enjoy your writing. Hi.

    • Reply Lorna 1st February 2018 at 6:27 pm

      Hi Lori! This month, I’ll do it! Honestly, thanks for reading.

  • Reply Rebecca Moon Ruark 1st February 2018 at 5:56 pm

    What a lovely post. I’m so glad you “have” to write–it make my days much nicer! In fact I wrote about that at my blog yesterday–having to write. Whatever your blog is, keep it up!

  • Reply Carrie Rubin 1st February 2018 at 6:25 pm

    Nice to learn and/or be reminded of these things about you. I visited Edinburgh last summer for two days on a cruise. Wow, what an amazing, beautiful city. I would love to go back some day.

    Good luck with the daily writing!

  • Reply thatblogwherecheriemovestogermany 1st February 2018 at 6:45 pm

    Lots of good reasons to write, lots of good things to write about. Keep writing, so I can keep reading. My best friend is currently a cat. Well, actually it is my husband, but he is at work all day and I at at home all day…trying to learn German. Keep writing.

  • Reply theycallmetater 1st February 2018 at 6:46 pm

    I also used to have a LiveJournal. Seemed easier then. I keep saying I will write more. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. I overthink way more here than I ever did with LiveJournal. Looking forward to more posts from you.

    • Reply Lorna 1st February 2018 at 7:54 pm

      Sometimes I think – What would my LJ mood and music be? Ha!

  • Reply SickChristine 1st February 2018 at 6:47 pm

    Beautifully written. “I write because I have to.” Yes, yes. I know that feeling and I’m so glad you write.

    • Reply Lorna 1st February 2018 at 7:50 pm

      I’m glad you write, too, Christine.

  • Reply TanGental 1st February 2018 at 8:32 pm

    It’s s bugger and a delight, isn’t it, this compulsion to write and blog and write some more? I think we should start a self help group ‘Hi I’m {insert name} and I’ve been blogging for {insert years}. The only difference to real addictions is we don’t want to shake this off

  • Reply The Indecisive Eejit 1st February 2018 at 9:19 pm

    Ahh live journal, that’s going back a while! I’m actually surprised I did now know this blog was named after your favourite grandma’s favourite drink, how did I miss this. All these years I’ve been thinking you were an alchie ffs lol 🙂

    • Reply Lorna 1st February 2018 at 9:23 pm

      I do drink. Cider mostly. Where have you been?! 🙂

      • Reply The Indecisive Eejit 1st February 2018 at 9:24 pm

        Ach I’ve been about but between work and other things my heads been a little all over the place. It hasn’t been the start to 2018 I hoped, but sure it’s only February lol 🙂

        • Reply Lorna 1st February 2018 at 9:26 pm

          You can do Chinese New Year, though.

          • The Indecisive Eejit 1st February 2018 at 9:29 pm

            Oh aye, good point. I forgot about that.
            So I google it and it turns out I’m a pig, or born in the year of the pig or something lol
            It says my luck isn’t going to be great this year either, but I’m going to do ok in the love department so it’s not all bad lol
            I don’t drink, but I might have a cider myself now ffs!

  • Reply AndreaJacole 1st February 2018 at 9:33 pm

    I really enjoyed this post. Your vulnerability is encouraging to me as a fellow blogger. Thanks for sharing and best wishes!

  • Reply Angie 1st February 2018 at 11:23 pm

    I’ve been feeling the same about my (not) writing lately. I lost my whatsy for a while there…to be honest, I’m still stumbling around in the dark looking for it. Starting an every day run sounds like a great idea, for me and for you. Great post!

  • Reply Kerry LifeandLoves 2nd February 2018 at 9:02 am

    Well you are my hero! posting everyday I imagine takes some commitment, amazing xx. I too have to write, it burns within me and I have to write. I dont write on my blog every day, thats more once a week, but I write something every day. I think your blog can be whatever you want it to be, no label required. Just enjoyment xxx

  • Reply Chomeuse with a Chou 2nd February 2018 at 9:26 am

    This is a great post, and I can completely relate to some of your reasons for needing to write – I also living abroad and hang out with a toddler. I write to keep my sanity! Good luck with the post-a-day, I couldn’t do it!

  • Reply englishwithkirsty 2nd February 2018 at 11:08 am

    Good luck with the post-a-day! I did one a couple of months ago and had fun, although it was tough some days. I also like what you said about blog labels. I can relate to it. I have a disability, but wouldn’t say mine is a disability blog. I write about our travels, but it’s not a travel blog either. Rather than focussing on what it is, I want to make it different and interesting enough for people to keep coming back! Have fun with the challenge and a great weekend!

  • Reply Sarah Klaren 2nd February 2018 at 11:20 am

    Omg I remember Livejournal… Wow. I had totally forgotten about that!

    I haven’t been writing as much lately, either from writers’ block or just purely unmotivated. It’s not uncommon for people like us, especially when blogging is a creative outlet in a therapeutic sense. When we get “emotionally blocked” or stressed, our mind tries to compartmentalize everything thus blocking the writing flow as well. But it’s always a relief to get back to it afte those periods of blockage – almost like being able to exhale after holding your breath. ☺️

  • Reply You Can Always Start Now 2nd February 2018 at 11:31 am

    WOW a post a day – good for you. Looking forward to reading about your month! I have always loved your blog name!

  • Reply Shayne 2nd February 2018 at 12:53 pm

    Hi Lorna! I absolutely loved this post. Thank you for sharing your honestly. I was sitting here reading and couldn’t help but laugh throughout. I think so much of blogging today has lost the story telling and it so focused on just trying to help people. I know I’ve done that many times! I’m excited to come back and read your blog this month. Good luck posting everyday!!

  • Reply gemmaorton 2nd February 2018 at 2:10 pm

    Nice to meet you (again) Lorna! We should have a wheel off sometime, as I think my wheels take some beating….
    I’m looking forward to a daily dose of Gin throughout February!

  • Reply Nickolai Kinny 3rd February 2018 at 1:54 pm

    I like the story behind the quirky name of your blog. Thank you for sharing! 🙂

  • Reply Actually Mummy 3rd February 2018 at 5:54 pm

    It’s nice sometimes to write out the true you isn’t it? Good luck with your mission for february!

  • Reply countryheartdeb 3rd February 2018 at 7:43 pm

    Completely agree and think you have to do it because you love it otherwise there is no staying power.

  • Reply Laura Dove 3rd February 2018 at 8:30 pm

    I love this and I completely agree. I write because it is something I have always done, and can’t imagine not doing.

  • Reply myrabevlife 4th February 2018 at 1:26 pm

    I sometimes sit and think if my posts are actually helping someone or not, this was a lovely read

    • Reply Lorna 4th February 2018 at 1:58 pm

      Well, I thank you for your accessible travel post! Rambled a bit on there!

      • Reply myrabevlife 4th February 2018 at 4:47 pm

        Aww thank you so much Lorna, much appreciated

  • Reply Nadia 4th February 2018 at 2:16 pm

    That was a lovely read. Keep doing what you are doing. I blog for the creativity… and because it now pays the bills!

  • Reply Steph Renovation Bay-Bee 4th February 2018 at 5:18 pm

    Great read, blogs have changed a lot over the years and it’s do good to write because you want to. Write about what you want

  • Reply scots2travel 4th February 2018 at 6:05 pm

    So many changes over the years regarding blogs. You make it your own. I love Skye so I hope you’ve settled in well.

  • Reply Little Pickle's Mom 4th February 2018 at 9:24 pm

    Oh such a well written post! And good luck with writing every day in February – I could do with a challenge like that too!

    • Reply Lorna 17th February 2018 at 9:44 am

      The post a day thing seems to have fizzled. Because I hate small-talk. But thank you, there is a new post coming up!

  • Reply Grant - Looking for the Postman 5th February 2018 at 9:48 pm

    As long as we write honestly, I think the blog will find it’s own direction. As an aside, I also moved to Scotland when I was 12! It’s some place to be at that age when you don’t have the local accent. 🙂

    • Reply Lorna 17th February 2018 at 9:47 am

      YES! I still don’t. I’m not local to anywhere. I guess I’m OK with it, ha! Nice to connect with you.

  • Reply Sonia Cave 6th February 2018 at 2:16 pm

    I love this post 🙂 too many of us get caught up in the numbers and what others want us to write, forgetting why we started in the first place, which we need to remember more

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