Coffee Talk Life Writing

That Time We Clicked

30th October 2017

Eight years ago today, I was getting ready to go on what I already hoped would be my last first date.  The boy liked Japanese fiction, beer, and obscure bands and the girl liked all of those things, and the boy, too.

Online dating and I were on a break.  Had reached an impasse.  Agreed to disagree.

And yet.

Two weeks before, I saw this guy.  This guy that seemed different to all the other guys.

Different because, well, he wasn’t my type.  But maybe, I’d been thinking my type was an asshole.

And this guy, this blondish, bearded geek with glasses, well there was something about him.

He looked like a real person.  And I wondered, truthfully, and only half silently, if he was my person.  And so, I winked at him.  The girl who likes full sentences, and interesting questions, sent a wink.  Thanks, Match.

And the blondish, bearded geek wrote back. With full sentences.  And interesting questions.  Really, he had me at the proper use of ‘you’re’.

We talked, or typed, about everything.  I’d included my chair in the most recent batch of well-lit single-chin photos, but I still said, Um, have you noticed I’m on wheels?

And then he wrote back.  He didn’t ask me if we could have races, or if I could have sex anyway.

Have I mentioned that I like tea?  We all have our things.  Please write back.

A week later, we were sitting across from each other, taking the lettuce off our burgers at the same time.

We looked at each other and said, ‘Hi.’  That little word meant everything.

It meant we’d found each other.  It meant love and laughs and adventures and interesting times, and the coolest kid I’ve ever met.

Neil is practical where I am not, he is annoyingly level-headed when I am not.  He makes me laugh and frustrates me like no one else.  He is my person, my Lobster, my penguin.

I love him even though he hates cheese.

We all have our things.  Please write back.


Also published on Medium.

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  • Reply emilydev9 30th October 2017 at 11:52 am

    I’m varklempt! x

    • Reply Lorna 30th October 2017 at 2:07 pm

      Me, too. x

  • Reply Nicole 30th October 2017 at 1:38 pm

    I would heart this (as Anya says) if I could. <3

    • Reply Lorna 30th October 2017 at 2:07 pm

      <3 <3 <3

  • Reply Liesbet 30th October 2017 at 3:36 pm

    Wonderful story. Isn’t it bizarre when we have those moments where we “just know”? Congratulations on your eight year togetherness!

    • Reply Lorna 30th October 2017 at 9:21 pm

      I knew from that day forward, ha! Thank you, Liesbet!

  • Reply PodcastManiac 30th October 2017 at 4:02 pm

    Omg. I could have written this story (except for the chair and the cheese!) Almost 7 years in after I scoffed at him being a “match” for me on eHarmony. My first ever – and last – blind/internet date. All because he wasn’t my type and he wrote in full sentences. Congrats to you two.

    • Reply Lorna 30th October 2017 at 6:42 pm

      You guys, too!

  • Reply gemmaorton 30th October 2017 at 5:19 pm

    Aww! ❤️
    Great post.
    It totally frustrates me when people use the wrong your, you’re. You’ve got a keeper there!

  • Reply Shruti Ohri 30th October 2017 at 5:25 pm

    Aw, this is beautiful! <3

  • Reply Becca Barracuda 30th October 2017 at 5:43 pm

    This is so sweet! Congratulations! 😊

  • Reply Judy E Martin 30th October 2017 at 6:19 pm

    Congratulations on your 8 years together, wishing you many more years of happiness! My husband hates cheese too (I have forgiven him for it now, though)!!

  • Reply gm1123 30th October 2017 at 6:30 pm

    Is this a true story? How sweet.

    • Reply Lorna 30th October 2017 at 6:40 pm

      Yeah, our ‘how we met’. All true.

  • Reply Bookstooge 30th October 2017 at 11:37 pm

    He doesn’t like cheese? And you married him? You must be a saint!


  • Reply amindfultravellerblog 30th October 2017 at 11:47 pm

    What a beautiful story…your soulmate right there!

  • Reply rysieblog 31st October 2017 at 12:19 am

    I love this post! Thank you for sharing!

  • Reply loristory 1st November 2017 at 9:16 am

    You had me at the end of the first paragraph. A sweet and wonderfully written story. I had my last first date 10 years ago thanks to Match. My guy also likes Japanese fiction. I hate that he puts butter on his cheese sandwiches, but I’m keeping him anyway.

  • Reply achildof 3rd November 2017 at 5:52 pm

    Love your story, it made me smile inside. Happy for you that you met the one for you. I met my man on Match. I’m always hungry and he just knows when to get me something to eat. 🙂 I’m a lucky woman.

    • Reply Lorna 3rd November 2017 at 7:44 pm

      Glad you found your person, too. Match is the best. Neil too knows the exact point I become hangry. Ha!

  • Reply shootingforthemoons 3rd November 2017 at 10:29 pm

    D’aww love why you gotta do me like that! Im here holding back tears and a smile at bloody 2:27 AM. This was everything. Im still Cheshire-smiling. Im so happy for you and everyone thats happy and OMLORD THIS IS MAKING ME MUSHY but love this babe xx sending a huuuugggeee hug your way xxxxxxx

  • Reply Kate Findley (@katefindley) 4th November 2017 at 5:53 am

    Love all the details. I agree that the proper use of “you’re” is very important!

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  • Reply rachaelstray 4th November 2017 at 10:58 am

    I love hearing how people met. Sounds like a great first date. Sometimes it pays to be brave. I can’t believe he doesn’t like cheese though?!

    • Reply Lorna 4th November 2017 at 11:02 am

      It’s an actual phobia. I have to pretend he’s lactose intolerant.

      • Reply rachaelstray 4th November 2017 at 11:05 am

        Oh wow. I love cheese! My husband hates nuts. Not a phobia or allergy just hates nuts. X

  • Reply Silverstein, Writer 5th November 2017 at 1:23 am

    Great story–so sweet!

  • Reply bestylechic 8th November 2017 at 7:01 am

    love reading your blog ..following you now follow back please:)

  • Reply thatblogwherecheriemovestogermany 5th June 2018 at 11:46 am

    Such a wonderful love story. I also love that you sent Well lit pictures featuring only one chin. I did the same.

    • Reply Lorna 5th June 2018 at 12:01 pm

      It worked, and lead to other well-lit photos. In the pub.

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