Coffee Talk

My Dear Aunt Lucy

11th June 2018

And so, I was quiet the last few weeks because I had no words.

My Aunt Lucy died, and then it was her funeral. And I really wish teleporters were already a thing.

I received word of her death on the way back from dropping Neil off at the ferry for his two weeks in the office.

My Isla asked me, I swear, if I was crying ‘because Aunt Lucy’s in heaven.  Can we call her up?’

Kinda sorta.

And even though we visited last year, it hurts when people go and you can’t be there for your family like you want to.  The world is small, but miles are long and oceans are huge.

And I honestly didn’t know what to do.  Until I wrote her a letter.

This is that letter:

My Dear Aunt Lucy,

It’s hard to imagine the world without you in it, so I’ve been in denial.

There are not enough words for how much you meant to me and all who knew and loved you. The world is a dimmer place today.

Thank you for being my voice of reason. Spending time with you was the highlight of my summers and my life.

Thank you for seeing the best in me and encouraging me to be that. Thank you for helping me write that letter to heaven in 1988, and for reading that poem to my Nana when I couldn’t be there to do it myself. I wish I could be there for you today.

Thank you for all the city trips and airport lifts. Broadway will never be the same.

Thank you for the laughs and the love, even when I thought I didn’t deserve it.

Thank you for all the cards and letters when I moved. Writing this is all I know what to do right now, and thank you doesn’t feel like enough.

Thank you for making me believe that maybe you can go home again. Thank you for welcoming me back like the years hadn’t passed. My nicknames won’t have the same ring to them.

Thank you for all the advice, I tried to follow it all. Especially ‘Marry that one.’ That worked out the best, and I thank you for the nudge.

Thank you also for always knowing how to say my Isla’s name.

Thank you for giving me that good luck charm, and for being my good luck charm.

You made the world a better place, and my life was brighter because of you. If I updated that letter to heaven, there’d be a few more questions I would ask. But for now and forever, I love you, Aunt Lu.

Rest in peace, my favorite.


Lorna Lu

This was read out at her service.  

I’m sharing this to encourage you to write your letters.  Your people can read them wherever they are.



Aunt Lucy and me a few New Yorks ago.  This was the exact moment she said ‘marry that one.’  Photo by ‘that one’

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  • Reply Danni 11th June 2018 at 7:11 pm

    And sobbing. Rest well Aunt Lu ❤❤

    • Reply Lorna 13th June 2018 at 10:15 am

      She liked you, too. <3

  • Reply Rebecca Moon Ruark 11th June 2018 at 7:18 pm

    So lovely.

  • Reply Zoe O'Farrell 11th June 2018 at 7:33 pm

    My thoughts are with you and your family x

  • Reply Andrew Reynolds 11th June 2018 at 7:33 pm

    sad news.

  • Reply Ritu 11th June 2018 at 7:39 pm

    So sorry for your loss Lorna

  • Reply curioussteph 11th June 2018 at 8:07 pm

    So wonderful that you had your Aunt Lucy, and I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful letter, and a reminder to write and send them.

  • Reply Gill 11th June 2018 at 8:09 pm

    So sorry for your loss Lorna. Auntie Lucy seems like a great person. Keep her in your heart and she’ll never be far away. xx

  • Reply Delicious Life 11th June 2018 at 8:58 pm

    Sorry for your loss Lorna.

  • Reply dinosaursdonkeysandms 11th June 2018 at 10:53 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss Lorna. Sending hugs. xxx

  • Reply Jackie Cangro 11th June 2018 at 11:21 pm

    I’m sorry for your loss, Lorna. A lovely letter/eulogy.
    Hugs to you.

  • Reply Reflections of an Untidy Mind 12th June 2018 at 1:59 am

    I am so very sorry for you loss, Lorna. Thank you for telling us about your Aunt Lucy. I think it is important that her life, and her contribution to your life, not go unrecognised.

  • Reply sgeoil 12th June 2018 at 2:11 am

    My condolences. A lovely letter to your Aunt.

  • Reply A Girl and Her Passport 12th June 2018 at 4:10 am

    So sorry for your loss!

  • Reply rachaelstray 12th June 2018 at 9:14 am

    Oh Lorna I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your letter is beautiful x

  • Reply a mindful traveler 12th June 2018 at 1:53 pm

    So sorry to hear Lorna. Such a special letter you wrote. I’m sure your A.Lucy is watching over you. Xx

  • Reply Terri, Reclaiming Hope 12th June 2018 at 2:21 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss Lorna. This is a beautiful tribute to your Aunt Lucy.

  • Reply Gabi Coatsworth 12th June 2018 at 3:25 pm

    Thanks for reminding us to write the letters. It’s good to write them when people are gone, but also when people are alive. I try to write a letter instead of sending a birthday card to my kids, to let them know I think they’re great. Just so they’ll always know.

    • Reply Lorna 12th June 2018 at 3:56 pm

      That’s kind of what I meant, just write at all times and keep writing. Isla even gets notes from her stuffed animals. Y’know, when they escape to the beach!

  • Reply fattymccupcakes 12th June 2018 at 5:00 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss, friend.

  • Reply loristory 12th June 2018 at 7:01 pm

    Aunt Lu reached into our hearts today. Thank you for the memories and for the idea about writing letters.

  • Reply Losing the Plot 14th June 2018 at 7:05 pm

    My heart aches for you xxx

    • Reply Lorna 14th June 2018 at 7:29 pm

      I twittered at you. Thank you for being you. <3

      • Reply Losing the Plot 15th June 2018 at 12:15 pm

        tried being someone else, but it didn’t work, my roots always show through

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